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It was just becoming unbearable.вЂќ Her obsession with sex and relationships affected her daily life, including her career in Hollywood: вЂњYouвЂ™re sitting at your desk fantasizing about having a relationship with your married boss. вЂњI would date someone for six weeks and I would suffer over it for six months. But while movies and music nearly always have a happy ending, RileyвЂ™s reality was much different: вЂњI was spending much too much time balled up on the floor in the fetal position, clutching my belly, just wanting to die because some guy hadnвЂ™t called me back.вЂќДЄt age 42, after getting clean from a cocaine addiction, Riley eventually realized the anguish she felt over parting ways with a man was lasting вЂњlonger than the so-called relationship,вЂќ she says. After all, it appears frequently in rom-coms and pop songs, she says. Riley thinks her sex addiction flew under the radar in part because society sort of expects-if not outright encourages-obsessive relationship behavior in women. She described her addiction as вЂњhaving sex with people I would not have lunch withвЂќ and вЂњsitting and obsessing and fantasizing and making up scenarios in these big complex romantic fantasies.вЂќ But this 'boy-craziness' didnвЂ™t stop in her teenage years, or her 20s, or even her 30s. вЂњFrom as early as I can remember, I would be what was called boy-crazy by anybody who was watching,вЂќ Riley says. ItвЂ™s a story that sounds familiar to Lee Riley*, a 60-something woman (she declined to share her exact age, preferring to identify as вЂњold enough to know betterвЂќ) living in Los Angeles who is also a sex addict. When she got to the place where she felt suicidal over the guy who wouldnвЂ™t text back, вЂњI wanted crumbs from guys at that point.вЂќ The trouble was, DeGuzman chose men who couldnвЂ™t or wouldnвЂ™t commit to her. So she used sex as вЂњa tool,вЂќ in her words, to keep men close to her. Throughout her 20s, she assumed other straight women were reacting or feeling the way she did with men and that вЂњall that guys would want from meвЂќ was sex. 'I believed that that was all I was good for.' вЂњI had this story from a very early age that a woman who was sexually desired, a woman who was sexual, a woman men wanted to have sex with, was of value,вЂќ she told Glamour. Charlene deGuzman says her sex addiction started as a вЂњhunger for love and attention and validation.вЂќ For her, the confusion came from misplaced messages about her self-worth. Men with sex addiction are more inclined to вЂњjust want to have sex and then move onвЂќ as opposed to becoming entwined in the emotional aspects of the relationship, Hudson explains, but sex addicts of both genders need continuous hits of attention and affection-women just go about it more privately.Дespite the name, sex and love addiction is the opposite of sexy-it is a deeply anguished and often isolating affliction. Often, they donвЂ™t get caught until they do something illegal and/or incredibly stupid ( paging Anthony Weiner), which makes the sex addict tabloid stereotype all the more salacious. Male sex addicts are more likely to pursue commercial sex, explains Hudson, so theyвЂ™ll turn to massage parlors, strip clubs, or online relationships to get their fix. Our society mostly focuses on guys with sex addiction because, well, from the outside their spiraling-out looks pretty juicy. вЂњPeople become objects to be used and not people to be related to.вЂќ вЂњ itвЂ™s not really about the person,вЂќ Hudson says. Addicts tend to zero in on whoeverвЂ™s available-no matter how married, engaged, far away, or otherwise inappropriate he or she might be.

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